MEDIUM: servers/proxies: Switch to using per-tgroup queues.

MEDIUM: servers/proxies: Switch to using per-tgroup queues.

For both servers and proxies, use one connection queue per thread-group,
instead of only one. Having only one can lead to severe performance
issues on NUMA machines, it is actually trivial to get the watchdog to
trigger on an AMD machine, having a server with a maxconn of 96, and an
injector that uses 160 concurrent connections.
We now have one queue per thread-group, however when dequeueing, we're
dequeuing MAX_SELF_USE_QUEUE (currently 9) pendconns from our own queue,
before dequeueing one from another thread group, if available, to make
sure everybody is still running.