MINOR: connections/mux: Add a new "subscribe" method.

MINOR: connections/mux: Add a new "subscribe" method.

Add a new "subscribe" method for connection, conn_stream and mux, so that
upper layer can subscribe to them, to be called when the event happens.
Right now, the only event implemented is "SUB_CAN_SEND", where the upper
layer can register to be called back when it is possible to send data.

The connection and conn_stream got a new "send_wait_list" entry, which
required to move a few struct members around to maintain an efficient
cache alignment (and actually this slightly improved performance).