MINOR: proxy: use atomic ops for default proxy refcount

MINOR: proxy: use atomic ops for default proxy refcount

Default proxy refcount <def_ref> is used to comptabilize reference on a
default proxy instance by standard proxies. Currently, this is necessary
when a default proxy defines TCP/HTTP rules or a tcpcheck ruleset.

Transform every access on <def_ref> so that atomic operations are now
used. Currently, this is not strictly needed as default proxies
references are only manipulated at init or deinit in single thread mode.
However, when dynamic backends deletion will be implemented, <def_ref>
will be decremented at runtime also.