CLEANUP: connection: rename subscription events values and event field

CLEANUP: connection: rename subscription events values and event field

The SUB_CAN_SEND/SUB_CAN_RECV enum values have been confusing a few
times, especially when checking them on reading. After some discussion,
it appears that calling them SUB_RETRY_SEND/SUB_RETRY_RECV more
accurately reflects their purpose since these events may only appear
after a first attempt to perform the I/O operation has failed or was
not completed.

In addition the wait_reason field in struct wait_event which carries
them makes one think that a single reason may happen at once while
it is in fact a set of events. Since the struct is called wait_event
it makes sense that this field is called "events" to indicate it's the
list of events we're subscribed to.

Last, the values for SUB_RETRY_RECV/SEND were swapped so that value
1 corresponds to recv and 2 to send, as is done almost everywhere else
in the code an in the shutdown() call.