MINOR: proxy: prevent backend deletion if server still exists in it

MINOR: proxy: prevent backend deletion if server still exists in it

Ensure a backend instance cannot be removed if there is still server in
it. This is checked via be_check_for_deletion() to ensure "del backend"
cannot be executed. The only solution is to use "del server" to remove
on the servers instances.

This check only covers servers not yet targetted via "del server". For
deleted servers not yet purged (due to their refcount), the proxy
refcount is incremented but this does not block "del backend"
invokation.